Taken from The Key to a Happier Me… Opening the doors to life’s true treasures
DOOR #4…
BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND
Happiness flows as self-love grows
Opening Door #4 and showering ourselves in its truth is of paramount
importance when creating happiness in our lives. I believe that if we
were all our own best friends and loved ourselves more, the world
would be a happier place for everyone. There would be more love
and peace surrounding us because we would no longer compete
or compare ourselves with others, and our need to be recognised
or acknowledged for our looks, work, or talents would, therefore,
diminish. We would cease seeking value in society and stop striving to
attain worldly treasures to feel a sense of worth. Most of all, we would
be happier in our relationships because we would no longer expect
or demand others to love us for us. Instead of looking to be loved, we
would focus on being love.
If you were to apply only one lesson in this entire book, this is the
one I would recommend, not because it is the most important, but
because with this lesson firmly in place in your heart, mind, and
soul, everything else you learn will fall naturally into place. I know
this because, for me, this was the last piece of the puzzle I needed to
complete myself.
When we do not feel whole, life becomes about a search for something
to fill the emptiness within. Some may turn to drugs, alcohol, sex,
gambling, or other addictive behaviours to give them a temporary fix,
but when the high wears off, they come back down with a thump,
and they are left with an even greater sense of emptiness. They can
become trapped on a rollercoaster of highs and lows, feeling both
euphoric and worthless as they desperately seek that sense of wholeness.
The truth is that the only thing to fill that void is pure unconditional love,
but not from an external source. I’m talking about love from within.
We make the mistake of wanting others to love us, continually searching
and striving but never quite achieving it when we leave our happiness
in the hands of others. However, the only way to create sustainable joy
and love within ourselves is to build it. The only love we truly need
with which to strongly connect is that of our soul and the source of
that love.
We are ‘The Ones’ for whom we spend our lives searching, and no
other person – be it our spouses, partners, or children – can make
us complete.
Earlier in the book, we started this journey towards knowing who we
are, and now it is time to learn to love that beautiful soul being and
become our own best friends, but before we begin, ask yourself these
questions:
• If your best friend were feeling down, would you tell her that
others disliked her, that she was ugly, fat, useless, or not good or
worthy enough, or would you lift her up and remind her of all
her excellent qualities?
• If your best friend were feeling unwell, weak, and in need of
some loving care, would you bring her unhealthy, processed
foods you know will make her feel worse, or would you make
her fresh and naturally healthy foods to help her feel better,
stronger, and that will give her more energy?
• If she needed to feel some love and kindness in her life, would
you put her down, ignore her, and carry on as if nothing
was wrong, or would you take some time to listen to her and
understand what she needed from you?
• If she were tired and needed some rest, would you tell her to
keep busy, work harder, and guilt her into feeling bad for resting,
or would you encourage her to rest to regain her strength?
• If she were fearful and needed moral support, would you put
more doubt into her mind by telling her all the things that
could go wrong, or would you talk her through it with love and
kindness and remind her that she is worthy and capable?
The question is: are you your own best friend? If you pride yourself
on being a good, kind, and loving human being, do you extend that
courtesy to yourself?
Your Life Your Legacy
Taken from The Key to a Happier Me… Opening the doors to life’s true treasures
DOOR #4…
BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND
Happiness flows as self-love grows
Opening Door #4 and showering ourselves in its truth is of paramount
importance when creating happiness in our lives. I believe that if we
were all our own best friends and loved ourselves more, the world
would be a happier place for everyone. There would be more love
and peace surrounding us because we would no longer compete
or compare ourselves with others, and our need to be recognised
or acknowledged for our looks, work, or talents would, therefore,
diminish. We would cease seeking value in society and stop striving to
attain worldly treasures to feel a sense of worth. Most of all, we would
be happier in our relationships because we would no longer expect
or demand others to love us for us. Instead of looking to be loved, we
would focus on being love.
If you were to apply only one lesson in this entire book, this is the
one I would recommend, not because it is the most important, but
because with this lesson firmly in place in your heart, mind, and
soul, everything else you learn will fall naturally into place. I know
this because, for me, this was the last piece of the puzzle I needed to
complete myself.
When we do not feel whole, life becomes about a search for something
to fill the emptiness within. Some may turn to drugs, alcohol, sex,
gambling, or other addictive behaviours to give them a temporary fix,
but when the high wears off, they come back down with a thump,
and they are left with an even greater sense of emptiness. They can
become trapped on a rollercoaster of highs and lows, feeling both
euphoric and worthless as they desperately seek that sense of wholeness.
The truth is that the only thing to fill that void is pure unconditional love,
but not from an external source. I’m talking about love from within.
We make the mistake of wanting others to love us, continually searching
and striving but never quite achieving it when we leave our happiness
in the hands of others. However, the only way to create sustainable joy
and love within ourselves is to build it. The only love we truly need
with which to strongly connect is that of our soul and the source of
that love.
We are ‘The Ones’ for whom we spend our lives searching, and no
other person – be it our spouses, partners, or children – can make
us complete.
Earlier in the book, we started this journey towards knowing who we
are, and now it is time to learn to love that beautiful soul being and
become our own best friends, but before we begin, ask yourself these
questions:
• If your best friend were feeling down, would you tell her that
others disliked her, that she was ugly, fat, useless, or not good or
worthy enough, or would you lift her up and remind her of all
her excellent qualities?
• If your best friend were feeling unwell, weak, and in need of
some loving care, would you bring her unhealthy, processed
foods you know will make her feel worse, or would you make
her fresh and naturally healthy foods to help her feel better,
stronger, and that will give her more energy?
• If she needed to feel some love and kindness in her life, would
you put her down, ignore her, and carry on as if nothing
was wrong, or would you take some time to listen to her and
understand what she needed from you?
• If she were tired and needed some rest, would you tell her to
keep busy, work harder, and guilt her into feeling bad for resting,
or would you encourage her to rest to regain her strength?
• If she were fearful and needed moral support, would you put
more doubt into her mind by telling her all the things that
could go wrong, or would you talk her through it with love and
kindness and remind her that she is worthy and capable?
The question is: are you your own best friend? If you pride yourself
on being a good, kind, and loving human being, do you extend that
courtesy to yourself?